How to love the process

I’ve been away for a while and now I have come back to rescue my blog life 🙂

I wanted to talk about enjoying the learning experience. I have touched on this in my previous post, progress over perfection.

I’ve been trying to find a way to understand what this truly means and how to capture it. But I have come to realise that it doesn’t come from a realisation, it’s something that you do.

We live in times where we want the end results instantly, when things go wrong, we sort of get very frustrated and annoyed. Are we failing ourselves? Why can’t I do this? These types of questions. The important point to take away from this is that it’s not a failure at all, but rather an on going process of refinement. Refining our tools, our skill and reaching mastery.

Mastery has many obstacles and challenges, sometimes we must take a step back and slow down, in order to go forwards. It becomes frustrating to force yourself to do the things that you don’t want, because we want the end result quicker than the process allows. When we are not in unison with this concept, our failings begin to show.

I am talking about this because it’s been on my mind lately and I have gone through the frustrating times. Questioning myself and getting all to annoyed.

I want you to take away one thing to help you on your road to Mastery. That is, we must enjoy the learning process and only expend energy in that part. The goals we plant, but we must rotate the cogs in order for the machine to function.

A good way of doing this is to forget the the outcome, winning or losing is what causes us the pain, we love too far into the future when we are in this mode of pain. Just think about the enjoyment of your present self.

Thank you for reading 🙂

Why it isn’t what happens to you but how you handle it that matters

I remember when I was young, I grew up without a father to properly help support me but my mum and the rest of my family kind of made up for that in a lot of ways. However, in some other ways I still used to feel the emptiness. I used to question why this happened to us, why were we subjected to this hardship? What did I do to deserve this? Sound familiar?

It may sound familiar because we all feel self pity at some point in our lives. We all want people to stop and give you a helping hand or drop whatever they have to aid us. Sometimes it’s necessary, but often I’ve found that doesn’t help a great deal. I’ve kicked myself mentally and wondered why I can’t change my situation.

The key is closer to home than you think. I started to understand that things will always happen to you, be it good or bad. We can’t change that, we can’t even change the environment that we may find ourselves in easily, sometimes. But it’s not what happens to you, it’s HOW you deal with it and how QUICKLY you can get back up.

Life is a boxing match

In a boxing match, the two fighters can take a beating, imagine if one boxer took a little break every time he got hit. How would that make the boxer feel? Probably like he is never going to get the upper hand. But that’s not what they do, they quite quickly get their composer back and figure out how to get their opponent down!

This same mentality can be translated into our everyday life. Life is that other boxer who is hitting you every now and again. You are the fighter taking the hits but not doing anything about it. Let that punch hit you if it does, so what? Now you come back, gain your composure and strike back with action! The only way to fight back is to fight back with composure and calmness.

So whenever life is hitting you and overwhelming you, just take a step back, find a place and a time in the day to block everything out and decompress. Do this by taking three long deep breaths from the diaphragm. You can stay there longer if you want. Now go back out there and plan your way to fight through to success in your own heart.

“Nobody is going to hit as hard as life, but it isn’t how hard you get hit, it’s how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!” – Rocky Balboa