10 Ways to improve your self confidence

Welcome back guys, we are already in February and I’m grateful for all of you readers who have been reading my blog 🙂 I am wanting to expand my horizon and will be reaching out to other bloggers soon.

In this week’s Tuesday post I’m going to talk about the ways to improve your self confidence, from my experience.

In my past, I remember trying to improve my confidence even though at times I seemed to be loud and the life of the party, my confidence in my true ability was low. It did affect me and I wanted to break away from that. I also remember that one of the first things that I remember thinking was, to improve myself I must change the way I think. I’ve decided to list some things that I feel are strong ways to improve your self confidence.

1) Lo and behold, the first thing on my list is to improve your thought pattern. Improving your thought patterns  will help you improve your confidence. Just by altering the way you think, you can change your life.

2) Putting yourself in situations that are unfamiliar to you. You can learn an incredible amount by just putting yourself in unfamiliar situations. You will learn how to adapt, whether you like that situation and lots of other things about yourself.

3) Being grateful does wonders for your confidence. A great way to do this is to list all the things you are happy for right now. From all the hardships you have overcome to all those people in your life you truly support you.

4) Congratulate yourself on those small Victories. Whenever you have accomplished something, however small. Give yourself a pat on the back.

5) Be proud of your past suffering and hardships. Being accepting of your past, even if you weren’t the best person in the world is one of the best things you can do. You accept that you have had hardships and even through all of that you have still made it to where you are now. Let that fire you up!

6) Listening to music that uplifts you. I’m not joking! I listen to music that actually fires me up and has meaning to me. I really do feel like I can conquer anything when I listen to these types of songs.

7) Living with a set of defined principles. This is very important. Most people either adopt some principles and follow then weakly or don’t really have them at all. Now, of course it’s not easy to always follow them, but if you live by a set of principles then watch how your life has depth and meaning. For example, you could say one of your principles is not to lie, how many people do you know wholeheartedly abide by this?

8) List all of your strengths. By writing down your strengths or even listing them in your head, you invoke a feeling of strength and power. These are powerful emotions you can use to triumph.

9) Stand on your own two feet and make decisions that you feel will be good for you. Getting advice is a good thing and should be encouraged. However, you should also realise that their situation is different from yours and yours is different from someone else’s. So if someone is telling you to do this or that, question whether that is also what you want.

10) Look after yourself. I’ve said this before, but when you put the needs of others in front of your needs all the time, you will eventually wear out. This may seem noble in the beginning, but you’re only damaging yourself here.

Truthfully there are a lot of ways to improve your self confidence, but there is a principle underlying them all and that is to focus on improving yourself. Once you have learnt how to improve yourself, you can shift your focus a little more to helping others improve themselves. Since you have actually walked the path yourself, you have some experience of what it’s like.


Why you should invest in yourself instead of a new watch

Why am I saying this?

Putting the time and money toward investing in yourself will help you go further than you ever thought of. By analysing your strengths and weaknesses, you can then plan on tackling those things you want to improve. For example, do you want to improve your financial situation? Instead of complaining about it.. use your power of action now. Learn how to invest, or learn how you can manage your finances better. Action is better than talking about it.

Pursuing your passions lifts your self confidence in a good way, because it makes you feel grounded and teaches you a lot more than just the passion that you are following. You’re also not following the crowd and just doing things to fit in, you’re actually taking back control of your life and wielding your mind!

Plan your passion!

It’s a good idea to set aside some time during the week to plan on how you want to tackle your passion. If you don’t know what your passions are then start writing down your interests or things that you would like to learn. From there you can pick one thing to do! It’s important that you also define how far you want to take it, if you wanted to have a ripped body, then define what that is for you. Don’t under any circumstances let someone else define the end goal for you. Just make sure that it challenges you and that you will enjoy the process of doing it.

Writing down a quick checklist is a great way of planning and helps puts things in perspective a little bit. Let’s say that you really want to learn how to cook, write a to do list that you can keep ticking off each week. So your to do list might say:

  • List all cuisines that you want to learn to cook
  • List some of the dishes in each cuisine that you want to cook in
  • Pick one dish and find a recipe that you understand
  • Cook the chosen dish one night this week
  • And so on…

You can keep adding to the list as you go since you just want your passion to drive you instead of it feeling like a chore! You don’t have to do all of the above in one day if you don’t have the time, you can even do each one every other day or even once a week. The point is that you are following your passion and you are learning something new, which means you are going outside of your comfort zone. It’s only here where we start to understand that we can really do what we set out to, no matter what the goal is.

Now I am not saying you shouldn’t ever buy a watch, on the contrary, I like watches. I used the watch as an example of modern day capitalism, where we buy things instead of investing in ourselves. When you start to invest in yourself, you start to understand that you are very powerful and that you have an opportunity to change things around you. That is truly a wonderful gift to understand!